I have no clue what gratitude inspires in us. Does it help one become more self-empowered or instead, hoard their supplies. Do accomplishments or dreadful experiences determine our volume of appreciativeness? Why are we thankful? Moreover, what are we indebted to and what motivates us to examine ourselves when we are not?
Unfortunately, yesterday, my wife and I received a call our oldest son (Aaron) was hospitalized with a collapsed lung. In particular, this kind of news immediately translates the assurance of mortality to its listeners. As such, my wife and I being humans were not immune to this stark realization. Seemly, however, my wife appeared more concerned than I did. Subsequently, her face visible with unease drew my attention and an assessment. In other words, I did not get her initial conclusion to go to Chicago and visit him immediately. I did not get it.
That’s what my life is about now. When we get free, when our minds are clear, all it leaves is gratitude and how can I help?”~ Byron Katie Quote
Your Son’s In Danger
Nevertheless, she explained love was the motivating factor of her worries and not fears. As a result, I became concern then with my lack of concern, was I insensitive? Worse, was I out of touch with her feelings; what cues did I miss; however, we will table that for a later date. In this case, my calm seemed to illuminate gratefulness more so than non-concern. Namely, my past is littered with early deaths (i.e., Father, grandmother, and mother) and so maybe I am numb to life’s realities. On the other hand, my two-decade battle with clinical depression may have enlightened me to being mindful. Who knows, however, this is for sure, I react different, as a result, I never panic or think the worse when bad news arrives.
I believe however, the reason for my calm is what I went through in life; it made me. I do not become terrorized or immobile because I know what is important. In particular, the little things taken for granted, (i.e., walks, quietness, solitary, tranquility) strengthen my gratefulness for the moment, the present. When we think about lost, as surely as I think my wife did, we think missed opportunities. As a result, our mind begins to play this continuous loop of ‘what we wished we had done’ or what we wanted to say to them.
All Talk N0 Action
Unfortunately, becoming and remaining truly grateful normally is thrust upon us by circumstances similar to ours; where situations are out of our control and threatening to take something away (i.e., life, health, material items). When this occurs, we may plead relentlessly for resolve. Nevertheless, if prays become fruition not soon after some are back to the human race in days. Again worshipping the God of circumstances, hoping she does not greet us again in the near future. The busy lives we treasure can become negative bowls of thoughts looking behind and ahead. A proud man is seldom a grateful man, for he never thinks he gets as much as he deserves.~ Henry Ward Beecher… Sadly, we are always looking for more in the physically world and we cannot find peace because of this unquenchable thirst.
To examine one’s gratefulness one need to be in the moment. Subsequently, being present and mindful ceases the insatiable appetite for worldly pleasures. We desire nice walks, instead of countless hours to achieve more money, to buy more things. A good sign of an appreciative person is their ability to sit and actually listen to other people. They make one feel appreciated and that your time is valuable. On the other hand, we know individuals that are always busy, running like a track star, in the never-satisfied races.
The moment is all you ever will possess on earth, the past and future does not exist. Gratefulness occurs when one experiences this higher consciousness, when we take advantage of the important things in life. “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.”~ Oprah Winfrey
You have a lot of love inside, be grateful, slow down and nurture it like a fine garden.